Offering People Light In The Darkness
Sunday, November 30th, 2008
Emma Pinch talks to the writer who wants people to understand that the face of HIV is the one that looks back in the mirror
IT WAS one of those nights, says Cate, which would be stamped on her memory for ever. The kids had sausage and mash for tea, and argued over whose turn it was to help wash up. She put them in the bath they swished the bath foam over the sides and tucked them in bed with a story. She gathered up clothes for the laundry basket, recapped the toothpaste, and laid out damp towels to dry.
And while that thoroughly ordinary domestic scene was being played out, one thought was repeating itself across her mind: Tomorrow I find out if I’m going to die.
Cate Jacobs was 32 and had been working as a volunteer at Liverpool’s Sahir House, providing support to people affected by HIV. There she’d met her partner, Martin, who was HIV positive.
“It was 1994 and there were a lot of myths about how you could contract HIV back then, but I felt pretty clued up in terms of effects and routes of transmission. I was reasonably confident I wouldn’t contract it, as long as we were careful and protected ourselves,” says Cate. “We never took risks.”
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